Mariève Lemay was born on 1ah January 2016 in Thailand, 13,161 kilometers from her home states the author signing One day life sent me a truck. This book is the story of a slow reconstruction and transformation. Interview.
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Almost six years after her serious accident, Mariève Lemay still has back pain and her right leg remains fragile, but she is calm. “I’m celebrating my 36th birthday and telling myself that truck that hit me was a gift,” she said. It was a long and painful reconstruction, but today I’m happier. »
On the first day of 2016, at 5am on the island of Koh Phangan in Thailand, Mariève was run over by a truck without headlights that didn’t stop. A hit and run. She suffers multiple fractures to her pelvis, hip, collarbone and both legs. Honestly, in One day life sent me a truck, she tells of her long months of being bedridden, her extreme pain and years of rehabilitation. She went through denial, anger, depression, drug and alcohol use, loneliness.
“I was a very active person and being bedridden like a prisoner, I couldn’t do anything without asking for help. Everything was complicated, even going to the toilet was very frustrating,” she says.
The hardest thing, besides the physical and mental suffering, was that I didn’t have a time limit for my recovery.
“I’ve had eight surgeries and each time I was told it was the last, that there was a 95% chance of success…then we saw on the X-ray afterwards that it didn’t work, it worked didn’t work, there wasn’t any Ossification. »
After being discharged from the hospital, Mariève does not accept her condition and isolates herself. “I was in denial for four years and clung to the girl I was before the accident. It’s hard to grieve for a part of yourself. I couldn’t accept being in a wheelchair, no longer independent, not being able to drive, I was told I would never be able to walk again. One of the ways of holding on to the Mariève of yore was to drown myself in alcohol and drugs, which eased my suffering. »
She too thought back to the past and couldn’t forgive herself for not having come home with her best friend the night of the accident and for having celebrated until dawn. “It’s useless because the ‘ifs’ aren’t time machines. »
Check your values
After her accident, Mariève tried to get back to work too quickly, but she hadn’t recovered and it went awry (she was a pharmaceutical salesman). “I too had to let go of that part of my life, the ambitious businesswoman. »
I realized that my life so far was empty and I measured my happiness only by success and money. I’ve thought a lot about who I am and what I want in life, about the values that were important to me.
“I’m a coach now, I provide support for people going through trauma. She points out that healing has a psychological sphere. “I meditated and visualized a lot. It’s important to have faith and be optimistic in your recovery. »
The young woman discovered in her accident that she was well surrounded. “I didn’t realize how much my family and friends loved me. My relationship with my father grew stronger, as did my friends. It was more difficult for my mother to read the book. I realized that he was the only person I let myself go with that I didn’t sympathize with. I shared all my fears and frustrations with her, and I took out on my mother all the feelings I didn’t show to others. I’ve excused myself. »
She wants to go back to Thailand to see the people who took care of her, but now she’s going to California with friends, in one skoolieSchool bus converted into a house.
And if you want to travel, she recommends that you don’t forget to take out insurance. ” It’s very useful. Just the medical repatriation from Thailand to Montreal cost $200,000, plus hospital expenses. And most importantly, check the sum insured assigned, in my case it was $1 million and it saved my life. »
One day life sent me a truck
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