To end with my name

A little Rose-Aimée Autumn was born last year.

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I don’t know her, it’s the Quebec First Names Bank that told me there are two of us now. The news made me happy. A victory !

Because if you knew the emails I get from some readers…

“I find your name so high-sounding, long and ridiculous that I quickly skip to the next page. We’re sorry. »

“Could you have gone longer? Ridiculous ! »

“Three years to learn to write your name. »

“Your name is too long, I’m telling you [sic] not and does not buy your books. »

(He’s my favorite!)

As my very first year as a special employee comes to an end – I won’t miss the opportunity to talk to you about Father’s Day next week – it’s time to spot the elephant in the room.

My parents wanted to call me Autumn. We told them it was too daring… Herbst was relegated to my middle names as a result. (Yes, even that, I have several.)

When I was 12, I had to get an ID card. The clerk on my file asked me which first names I wanted to keep.

“Rose-Aimee Autumn, please. »

I thought it was a pity that my parents hid such a romantic name. I wanted him too.

As for “T. Morin”, it’s not my choice.

T., it’s for my mother. She wanted me to have her last name, but since she was adopted, she couldn’t fully identify with her clan… T. that would do.

This should enlighten the kind readers who have written to me to learn more about the stack of letters found next to my photo each week.

(I take this opportunity to say hello to the person who wrote me that said photo would be nicer if you could see my teeth…)

Well, how do you explain that a first name can shock us?

I write “we” because I include myself in the lot… If I love my name, I’m still curious about the story of little Victor-Hugo, Simon-Guy, Hibou and Paul-Rouge, who were born in 2021.

“As long as the first name was submitted [du parrain au filleul notamment]With a few exceptions, there were no “nice” or “bad” first names,” sociologist Baptiste Coulmont told me.

In fact, only since then have they been selected to our liking (around the XIXe Century) that they are subject to the court. Now “the first name is seen as an expression of something,” the researcher sums up.

According to Étienne Guertin-Tardif, there is a story behind a first name.

The sociology teacher at Cégep Marie-Victorin uses first names to show his students that society weighs on us without us realizing it.


PHOTO MARCO CAMPANOZZI, THE PRESS

Etienne Guertin Tardif

We believe we can give a child any first name, but time, the environment in which we develop, and our level of education will all play a role in our choice. We are more conditioned than we think!

Étienne Guertin-Tardif, sociology teacher at Cégep Marie-Victorin

Our first name evokes something on a societal level: a generation, a class, an origin. It can therefore have a certain weight.

“Research has shown that first names, which are typically associated with a working-class background, are less attractive on dating sites,” says the teacher. And at school, those with a noble first name can get better grades! »1

A name has connotations.

What clichés does mine invite?

It can be a little haughty. Or hippie. Or blue flower. I can imagine certain qualities being ascribed to me when I hear it (as I assume all Mikes are party goers who dream of motorcycle trips)…

And what makes a “beautiful” first name?

Étienne Guertin-Tardif answers me with a reference to the sociologist Pierre Bourdieu: “It is difficult to identify our tastes, but it is easy to identify our dislikes! If we don’t like a first name, we have a clear reaction. We know we would never give it to our child…”

But if we had to find a leading trend, we could think of brevity. The most popular first names tend to be very short, like Emma and Noah, the big winners of 2021.

Four letters. It is true that I do not live up to expectations in this respect…

“We often have relatively common first names,” says Baptiste Coulmont. If your first name alone was “Rose” you would get fewer comments. »

Since, according to him, I use several of my first names in public, I can invite further reactions. By transitioning fall from my birth certificate into my daily life, I’ve turned my nose at the standards…

Little Rose- Aimée Autumn born 2021,

If you ever come across this column while googling your name, you know it will open a lot of doors for you in a few years. It will spark curiosity and make a great icebreaker in everyone party and inspire passionate love letters.

Or e-mails, because paper will probably no longer exist.

You have a poem for your first name and, in my experience, no reason to regret it. It’s precious, rarity. It will make you hard to forget.

If there are any difficulties, remember that there are names that are much harder to bear than yours …

Greetings to the four Adolfs born in Canada since 1980.

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